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For time immemorial, no maxim has been proved correct so often as ‘sex sells.’ And when it comes to the notoriously straight white male-dominated film industry, this typically means peddling female flesh.

While the efforts of certain actors like Kevin Bacon, Ewan McGregor and Michael Fassbender may go some way to redress the balance, the fact remains that female nudity is far more commonplace in the movies than male nudity, and it’s almost a foregone conclusion that most actresses will at least once or twice in their career take a role which sees them appear naked, or at least partially so. And yet, while some actresses will only ever perform one or two nude scenes in their whole career, others will – by choice or circumstance – take roles which require a smidgen more than that. As in, roles which barely see them keep their clothes on at all.

Whether the nudity is ‘artistically valid.’ or the role ‘requires’ it, or it’s plainly and simply there to sell more tickets; well, that’s all open to debate. But there’s no denying that, when a movie sees an actress stay naked for more or less their entire screen time, it tends to make for memorable viewing.

On the off chance this wasn’t already screamingly obvious, expect NSFW (although censored) images ahead.

Why Aren’t We Talking About Disability and Sex?

Most young people spend a lot of time talking about sex with their mates. All sorts of sex in fact – the other sex, our sex, how much sex, good sex and bad sex. We’re quite prepared to be upfront about the fact we think talking about sex (and thinking about it too) is totally normal and completely healthy.

Then something came along which made me realise that there was one aspect of sex we didn’t ever talk about. That something was an Oscar nominated film performance from an actress called Helen Hunt. The film is called ‘The Sessions’ and it’s all about disability and sex. I realised that we haven’t been talking about disability and sex. The issue is being brushed under the carpet and that’s not healthy. I reckon it’s time to get talking.

THEY DON’T TALK ABOUT DISABLED PEOPLE GETTING SEX AT SCHOOL EITHER

Sex education at most schools school is usually only really focused on relationships between people who don’t have a disability. This can mean young people with a disability are not informed about sex and relationships. Think it through and you start to realise this can add up to the idea that sex isn’t for disabled people. Reflected in the views of wider society it becomes a taboo subject.

You’ve probably seen or at least heard of the Channel 4 programme ‘The Undateables’. It’s basically a dating show for people with disabilities. The show challenges the view that having a disability somehow makes you asexual or non-sexual. It shows that disabled people, as much as anyone, want to find a partner for sex, love and all the other stuff boys and girls (or boys and boys, and girls and girls) do together.

Some people are concerned that the programme exploits people in the show. Actually, the name of the show give’s the wrong impression and is rather exploitative. ‘Undateable’ in who’s views – who is to judge. Jumping to conclusions about exploitation can result in sexual rights being compromised, leaving people feeling as if they can’t, or have no right, to sexually express themselves.

THE GLEE OF SEX

As mentioned above sex and disability is topical with the release of ‘The Sessions’. It tells the true story of a man with a man paralysed from the neck down who uses a sex surrogate to lose his virginity. The film challenges the view that people with disabilities do not want to have physical relationships. The idea that people with disabilities don’t possess sexual desires means that these desires are overlooked.

The film shows a man overcoming his own insecurities and fighting for a right that he feels he deserves. The film has done a great job at getting people talking and bringing issues into the spotlight.

Sex and disability aren’t addressed together much in films and TV. But remember when Artie from Glee lost his virginity to the hot cheerleader? One of the things that he said was that he wasn’t even sure he could have sex after his accident. This is a common worry and one that may make people cautious of entering into a relationship in the first place.

WHAT IS A SEX SURROGATE?

A sex surrogate is not the same as a prostitute. Sexual surrogacy is based around therapy and involves attending a number of sessions over some months. A surrogate addresses psychological as well as physical issues.

People with physical disabilities who rely on a carer find it particularly hard to have sexual relationships. Often people’s carers are their parents, who may be overprotective making it even more difficult to express sexual desires.

On one hand this can result in feelings of isolation and even shame. However some parents who are carers pay for sexual surrogates for their children when they are old enough. It isn’t part of life that a parent expects to be involved in so it can be difficult. But being open about desires can avoid resentment as it acknowledges the validity of sexual feelings.

There are some agencies that are especially for this who find sex workers for disabled people. They work within the law, have been vetted and are used to working with people with disabilities.

IN THE NEWS – SUS-SEX

Back in March sex and disability were in the news when it was revealed that sex workers were being used in care homes in Sussex. The revelations had a mixed response. Some people are concerned that this opens the door to the possibility of exploitation. Others defend it, saying that the sexual surrogates are doing something that care workers are unable to, both morally and by law.

For some, using a sex worker and knowing that they can be intimate, can give the confidence that they need to be in a relationship with a more long-term partner. Learning that they have some physical sexual capability to back up their sexual desires raises their self-esteem.

Others may not want to use a sex worker and would prefer to wait until they are in a relationship. Going back to Glee, Artie was upset that he lost his virginity through ‘meaningless’ sex – albeit as an expression by a caring friend. He was excited to lose his virginity as he wasn’t sure he could have sex. After the encounter he was left wishing he had waited.

You can make your own mind up about whether first sexual encounters are always meaningful. However this reaction in itself is a reflection that people with disabilities experience the same worries about sex and love as anyone else.

SO, LET’S GET TALKING

There’s a lot to consider. Some have concerns that the use of sex workers could lead to abuse of vulnerable people. While sexual desires are important, exploitation is a concern. Although if you follow the thought that sex workers are themselves being exploited the question becomes who is exploiting whom.

For this reason it is important for there to be open and honest conversations about the issues. By doing this, disabled people can feel that any sexual desires they have are normal.

Half of the battle is making society more aware of the issues; this is first step to combating stigma on the subject.

Sex Drive During Pregnancy

What is your sex drive like during Pregnancy?

Changes in sex drive
During pregnancy you may notice a lot of physical and emotional changes. Your breast size increases, and so does your belly. You could also experience severe mood swings and numerous changes in your sexual feelings. A lot of pregnant women could go through fluctuating sexual feelings during the whole nine months of pregnancy.

What does sex drive mean?
Sex drive refers to a person’s natural craving to have sex. It is also referred as libido. On attaining puberty, the pituitary gland in the brain, indicates the body to start generating sex hormones. These hormones aid in ovulation, menstruation and determine sex drive. A woman’s libido is ascertained by estrogen and progesterone levels. Physical well being and self-esteem also influences libido.

Sex drive when pregnant
During pregnancy, you may observe a change in your sex drive. It could either increase or decrease. Such changes are common and it is usually a normal part of pregnancy. It is not abnormal and its certainly not a cause to be worried about.

Usually, during the first trimester the sex drive could decrease due to morning sickness or fatigue. During the second trimester, the libido could increase as some women may feel more energetic. During the third trimester of pregnancy, libido levels could decrease as the belly increases as the time of birth approaches causing several discomforts in daily life. The concern of your baby’s safety could also have effects on your sex drive, mentally and physically.

Increase in sex drive
Many pregnant women may find that their sex drive has increased greatly during pregnancy. The reason for this is because of the increase in progesterone and estrogen levels that result in an increased libido and sexual satisfaction. These changes could enhance lubrication of the vagina, highly sensitive breasts and nipples and an increase in blood flow to the pelvis.

Decrease in sex drive
Some women could also face a severe reduction in libido during pregnancy which is also quite normal. Usually in the first trimester some woman could have morning sickness or experience fatigue which could reduce sex drive. Weight gain or changes in the body could make sex uncomfortable or self conscious. Some women could be concerned about the baby’s safety during sex which could also influence libido whether it be consciously or unconsciously.

Women who are interested in boosting their sex drive while pregnant should try a sexual gel or cream enhancer. During pregnancy most medications should be avoided unless stated otherwise by your doctor, even if its herbal. It would be best to consult with your doctor before taking any sexual enhancements in pill form or any other medications. A gel or cream would be safest form of sexual enhancement while pregnant.

Considering partner’s sex drive
One should consider your partner’s libido which could also change during the woman’s pregnancy. Some men may find their partners more sexy during pregnancy, while others may possibly find the opposite. Some men worry about the baby’s health which could reduce their sex drive consciously or unconsciously.

Handling sex drive when pregnant
In case you are worried about the changes in your sex drive, you could benefit by:
-Talking to your doctor about any changes in your sex drive and safe sex suggestions.
-Discuss with your partner ways to satisfy each others’ needs while taking the baby’s safety into consideration.
-Try sexual positions in which you feel comfortable to make sex pleasurable.
-Trying some sexual gel or cream enhancers for increased moisture, stimulation, and sensations.